Strange marriage with a strange sex life

Many media including newspapers and online news websites present the story of Rahmat Sulityo who forged his name to Icha Oktaviany (Icha). This man has successfully deceived Muhammad Umar (32), Jatiasih Sub-District residents, City of Bekasi, West Java, Indonesia for several months.

The two met on Facebook where Rahmat Sulityo (male) had been admitting himself as Icha (Woman) who works as a flight attendant. Because of desperate, the parents agreed and always persuaded continues by Icha, Omar immediately have married Okta although recently become acquainted. Rahmat also create a false identity. "I have a copy of the original ID card. From that photocopy of ID card, I change my identity," said Rahmat aka Okta at the police station after had been arrested. The story goes; they finally got married in November 2010.

The Sub-District Police Chief, The Sub-Inspector, told reporters complaint of Muhammad Umar (32) to the police. "Actors pretending to be women, then married to the victim Umar, in which all the wedding expenses are borne by the victim," he said.

From the results of the investigation, Omar is married to a woman named Icha on September 19th, 2010 at the house of the victim in the presence of parents respectively, after the couple relationship since August 2010.

During establishing households, said Sub-District Police Chief, actors behave like a wife with a headscarf and always use complete women's clothing, woman Moslem's hijab. "Even to convince the victim, the perpetrator always wear closed to conceal certain physical part," he said. During the six months, he said, the victim and the perpetrator had sex like husband and wife in a way done at night and the lights turned off completely. In fact, perpetrators often deny having sex with the man on the top position by reason of experiencing digestive or menstrual disorders. "Sex activity were usually done by anal sex since actors are always taking a position on stomach," Sub-District Police Chief said.

Omar victims only learned that his wife is a man on Tuesday (29/03/2011) and then, after neighbours had informed him the true personality of Icha. Residents who had known Icha was also informed that the woman is often behave rude and has a beard and well-built. Previously, Icha neighbors also had prosecuted citizens for a physical check to the Medical Clinic in Bogor District, in order to know the sex of the truth. But, Sub-District Police Chief said, Icha eventually managed to convince the victim Omar with the doctor's certificate, fake certificate.

However, the perpetrators managed to lie uncovered thanks to the recognition of the clinic stating never issued a statement about the gender of the person who named Icha. From the clinical side statement like that, some residents went straight to Icha at his house with the intention of examining the actual sex.

But before it made citizens, Icha finally admitted that he did androgynous men. Local Police Chief added, after learning that his wife's clearly a man, the victim reported to officers' Umar came to mentioning Icha which has the name Rahmat Sulistiyo actually have committed fraud. For the offense, the suspect can be snared on criminal fraud, with the threat of seven years imprisonment.

On the other hand, in other media, senior psychiatrist, Professor Dadang Hawari said the odd if Omar does not know the sex of his wife for six months. So therefore, the police in addition to examining psychiatric Icha, police also have to examine the mental condition of her husband Omar.

"Psychiatric condition of Omar should be examined also to determine his sexual orientation," said Dadang. Dadang suspect Omar is also the type of man who loved the same sex, such as Icha. He said, although it has limited vision and pattern of intimate relationships as required by turning off the lights-and-anal position, Omar should be able to know the sex of Icha by touching an intimate part.

Did Omar and Icha is a gay couple? "That's something like," Dada suspect. Dadang added, could be Omar and Icha use this marriage to cover up their identity as gay couples suspected. "I think this is the old mode. What this woman transvestites and then they become 'Husband-wife'", Dadang said.

So, why did Umar defend the Icha when Icha was being raided by neighbours and reported Icha to the police? "It all had been exposed to people, he may be embarrassed," he said.

Besides my opinion for the marriage of the same sex, my question is: is Omar a gay?